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    Introverted or Extroverted? How to build a summer routine that works

    July 30, 2015

    Kids have a spot at camp? Check. Enrolled in swimming? Check. Taking an art class? Check. There’s no question that keeping your kids busy and having a routine during the summer months is a good idea. Especially with teens and pre-teens, too much idle time leaves room for kids to get into trouble. While July […]

  • The Benefits of Breathing Heavy

    June 4, 2015

    Did you know that there’s a strong connection between mind and body wellness? Research indicates that individuals that are physically active are better able to manage depression, anxiety and stress. In some cases, physical activity can be as effective as medication in the treatment of depression. Prescription for using exercise to manage moods: 1.      30 […]

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    A Family Therapist’s Reflections On Advocacy And The Climate Crisis

    April 15, 2015

    April 22nd is Earth Day. Various world leaders, and religious leaders, have said that Climate Change is the leading moral issue of our time, because it affects the future of the earth and of human life in community. Thus, these are issues which deeply affect those of us who are systemic in our therapeutic lens. […]

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    Reflections on World Down Syndrome Day: Socks and Scaffolding

    March 27, 2015

    On March 21, I was saying Happy World Down Syndrome Day and wearing 3 pairs of socks. To those of us who are lucky enough to know and love a family member or friend with Down Syndrome, celebrating World Down Syndrome Day every March 21st is great! Down syndrome is a chromosomal disorder. A person […]

  • Change your Marriage in Seconds!

    March 19, 2015

    Connected relationships require a lot of hard work; they require attentiveness, vulnerability, emotional responsiveness, healthy dependence, and taking healthy emotional risks. I believe this can be accomplished in seconds! You’re probably thinking I’m crazy and I’m out to sell some gimmick because reasonable people know that anything worthwhile in life takes dedication, commitment and hard […]

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    Building Intimacy

    March 12, 2015

    “Intimacy is basically the vehicle towards attachment; feeling ‘close’ to someone…connected.  We are creatures of attachment.  We are built to want to feel intimately connected, unless something interferes with the capacity to attach. Fear often gets in the way of us connecting through intimacy.  Fear of being hurt, of being unloved, of risking loss, of feeling vulnerable…  Especially […]

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    Parents: Stop Over Functioning!

    March 3, 2015

    Are you feeling more stressed, tired, or worried about your child’s life than she/he is about their own life? Do you do for your children what they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves? You are probably over-functioning! In fact, if you are a parent, period, you are probably over functioning. OVER FUNCTIONING I’ve learned […]

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    Empathy in Relationships

    February 26, 2015

    There is a lot of confusion these days regarding the meaning of the word empathy and how empathy can be demonstrated in a relationship. Oftentimes we hear of a comparison between empathy and sympathy, which regards the latter as a less heartfelt response to a situation or to a partner’s feelings. I am not quite […]

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    Change Your Partner (Just in Time for Valentine’s Day!)

    February 12, 2015

    Valentine’s Day invites us to think about love and relationships, perhaps more than any other time of the year. Whether single or coupled off, we are reminded of the deep longings within each of us. Here are some of the core longings we share as human beings: To be seen completely, for all that we […]

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    Ending Blame and Defensiveness

    February 5, 2015

    (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever) “We always fight over the dumbest little things” “I don’t even remember how it started” Often, conflicts over something very small are then fuelled by blame and defensiveness and blow up into a full-blown argument. The original problem gets lost because we have added so many layers of […]

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    Letting go of the past: how to keep moving forward

    January 29, 2015

    We sometimes get stuck in angst or resentment about something painful that happened in the past.   It could be anything from an argument with a sibling or a betrayal of trust, to a lost love or the death of a loved one.  Fixating on the past keeps us from fully living in the present…and it doesn’t change the past. Although […]

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    Resolutions or Regrets?

    January 22, 2015

    A friend of mine recently proclaimed he was making no New Year’s resolutions. He had decided that over the years he seldom kept any of them up for any decent amount of time therefore there wasn’t much point making them. He would only regret it later, he said. I nodded, and pondered on all the […]